Dear 20-year old me,
This is it. The last year of your twenties.
There will be so many more big changes to come in your life, but these past 9 years have changed the course of it more than you could have imagined. You will learn so much about who you are and what is most important in your life.
I want to write this open letter to you, my 20-year-old self, but I promise, without it, you will still be fine. But if it was ever possible for you to read this letter…I want you to take it to heart.
Don’t take your body for granted.
I know you think your butt is too big, I’m sorry to say, it will only get bigger. Your body will change in so many beautiful ways, and you will find someone who loves every inch of you, exactly how it is and exactly how it changes. As long as you stay healthy, the changes to your body, that may seem unappealing from the outside, are because of amazing things your body was made to do.
Learn to accept and appreciate rejection.
It’s coming for you.
Buy quality clothes.
I know right now the cheap + trendy clothes are more doable for you, but you’ve stopped growing. Some of these things will surprisingly be in your closet for years… leave those two cheap tops behind and buy that one you really love. I know it’s more expensive, but it’s much better quality. You’ll thank me in 5 years.
Don’t get a credit card.
I know you think you need it, you dont. If you don’t have the money, it can wait. If that top you love isn’t there when you get your next pay check, it wasn’t meant to be.
Don’t wait for a special occasion.
Make peace with the hardships of your past that you are holding onto.
It affects you more than you know and ignoring it doesn’t last. Make peace with them so it doesn’t unexpectedly come to the surface in your future. You’re responsible for how long you let them hurt you and haunt you.
Time heals everything.
It may take 10 years for some wounds to heal…but I promise they will heal.
Don’t forget your dreams.
Some of them will happen because you kept working at it and it will be amazing. Some won’t happen and that’s okay! Some will slightly open the window for you to see them, stop and pay attention, or they might pass you by. None of them will come easy, but keep pursuing them!
I promise He will answer you.
Stop caring about what other people think of you.
Don’t take it personally when someone hurts you. Hurt people hurt people.
If relationships are hard + painful, let them go.
Relationships that are worth it will sometimes be hard work, but they should never be painful too.
There are only ‘one size fits all’ measurements in clothing, not in life.
Don’t compare yourself to others because you have had a significantly different life from everyone, as has everyone from you.
When you are trying so hard to keep something in your control but you can’t, it’s God showing you He’s in control.
You will learn more from all the failures in your life, than the things that bring you success.
Don’t hold onto them in grief, appreciate them for what they are.
You will become a wife + a mother before you think you are ready.
You will never be ready but at the same time…you are more than ready.
You got this + I love you.
Your 29-year old self.